Thinking of marrying her? 8 things that might make you reconsider
Marrying someone is not a decision you should take lightly. If you focus on the superficial when chosing a wife, you might be ignoring red flags that will make things difficult in the future. Here are eight things that might make you reconsider marrying your girlfriend.
1. She’s dependent on you
A girlfriend who needs you to function in everyday life would not make a good wife. It’s nice when couples can and want to do things together, but it’s not always possible. You need to know the woman you’re dating and intend to marry can handle things on her own. If something needs to be done, can she get it done without you by her side? When life is busy and overwhelming, it’s important to have two mature adults take care of things without needing hand-holding.
2. She’s secretive
When you’re in a relationship with someone, you want to know they can be open with you about things. If you find out she hides things such as friends, purchases, or where she’s been, she might not be the best choice for a wife. Relationships are a two-way street and both parties need practice honesty. Dishonesty can snowball from small things to larger things. If your girlfriend is comfortable hiding things from you now, it’s likely to continue in the future.
3 She’s bad with money
If the woman you’re thinking of marrying is bad with money, you might want to reconsider marriage. It might not seem like something to end a relationship over, but money is a big deal. When you get married, you will likely combine finances, split bills, and make large purchases together. Does your girlfriend currently have debt? Debt isn’t uncommon or bad per se, but how she’s handling it is what’s important. If she’s not actively paying it off, but choosing to add on it to by making more unnecessary purchases, getting married could mean trouble for your finances. If she is working to pay off her debt, this is a good sign.
4. She craves attention from other men
When you’re thinking of marrying someone, your attention should be enough for her. If the woman you’re dating still enjoys drawing attention from other men, she might not be ready to get married yet. You don’t want to have to fight with other men for her attention or worry how far she’s willing to go to get attention. If she likes to show that men are interested in her, she might be too immature to be married.
5. She’s obsessed with hitting milestones
Some people have the idea that hitting life milestones such as getting married, having kids, and buying a home, is what signals their success in life. They become determined to do them by certain ages and might put pressure on their significant other to get them done. If your girlfriend is pressuring you to get married and can’t stop obsessing over the next step in life, you have to consider if that’s the kind of relationship you want. Do you want your life determined by milestones that were arbitrarily set in the past?
6. She’s not supportive of your goals
A woman who isn’t supportive of your goals and dreams in life isn’t someone you should marry. It’s important that couples support each other in their ambitions. You will have goals together, but you will also have individual goals If the woman you’re dating seems unsupportive of your goals, this is a red iiag. This may show itself in her expecting you to spend all yourtime with her and getting upset if you want some time to yourself. A woman who truly supports your goals will understand your need for time alone. She will encourage you and help in any way she can. She will understand your goals because she has her ones of her own.
7. She has trust issues
Trust is important if you’re going to marry someone. If the woman you’re dating is constantly accusing you of talking to or seeing other people, you have to decide if this is something you want to deal with for years to come. Getting married will not automatically stop the accumtions. It’s possible the accumtions and control will get worse.
8. She’s a skilled manipulator
If the woman you’re dating knows how to get her way and is willing to go to any length to do it, she probably isn’t someone you want to marry. If you girlfriend cries, says you don’t love her, or threatens to leave if you don’t do what she wants, these are forms of manipulation. If you give in to them, she’ll know she has power over you. This behaviour isn’t acceptable when you’re dating and won’t be when you’re married.
Marrying someone isn’t a decision you should take lightly. It’s important to take actions during the dating stage seriously.