“You know what really pisses me off? When my man takes my head and forces it down toward his penis to let me know he wants oral sex. Even if I was interested in doing it before, once he gets pushy, I totally turn off” – Precious
“If i’m dating a guy who says, ‘Hey baby how about a blow job?’ – that’s the end of the relationship for me. it makes me feel like a cheap hooker in the parking lot of a convenience store. I like giving a man oral sex, but not when he puts it that way.” -Jenifer
Let’s cut to the chase, guys. We know you love receiving oral sex. But when you get pushy about wanting it, we get totally turned off and disinterested. I’m a big proponent of women learning how to enjoy worshiping their partner through the act of loving him orally – in my book Secrets About Men Woman Should Know, I help women work through their resistance to this, and give explicit instructions that will make the whole experience more enjoyable for both partners. So I’m on your side, guys.
But you don’t help when you become too aggressive and insistent about it.
Here are some tips for how to get your female partner more interested in giving you oral sex:
1. KEEP YOUR GENITALS CLEAN.
Don’t laugh – you can’t imagine how many women wrote about this in my surveys. When I say clean, I don’t mean simply taking a shower once a day. I mean: Wash yourself completely before having sex. If your partner gets used to your doing this, she will be more open to orally pleasuring you. Of course, the opposite is true as well — if she expects to feel as If she’s pressing her face into a bag of dirty gym clothes, she may not be too enthusiastic about a return visit. It’s simple, really. Ask yourself: “Would I want to put my own face down there before I’ve washed?”
If you suspect you’ve already developed a poor track record in this area, you may need to make an announcement to her that you’ve turned a new leaf. It can be as simple as, “Let me take a quick shower before we make love. I want to be clean for you.” She’ll get the message.
2. DON’T FORCE HER HEAD DOWN TOWARD YOUR PENIS, EVER.
Do I need to explain this? I hope not. This gesture brings up all sorts of awful emotional reactions in a woman,from feeling forced, controlled, violated, etc. It’s certainly not the way to get her more interested in oral sex. There are other, more subtle ways of letting her know you’d like some attention in that area.
3. DON’T SHOVE YOUR PENIS DEEP INTO HER MOUTH.
Guys, have you ever had a penis in your mouth? If you had, you would know how much room it takes up. It’s hard for a woman to breathe when her mouth is full, let alone not gag. Let her monitor the penetration. Better yet, tell her she’s in charge. This will make her feel confident so she can relax without wonying that you will suddenly plunge yourself down her throat.